You’ve been single and looking for quite some time until you met this beautiful woman on a relationship site. Right from the start, you hit it off and you were compatible on all grounds – hobbies, likes and dislikes, career orientation and even sexual interests. All you need is to check it out all the possible information for a better first impression. In short she is the perfect woman for you. What should you do next?
Do not seclude yourself to the online dating world only
If you met someone who is compatible with you on all grounds, do not waste any more time dating online. In fact online dating can be seen as a pre dating phase only. The real dating starts the moment you have met each other and have started going on dates regularly. As long as your interaction has been limited to emails, phone calls and text messages only, this does not count as dating per se!
Importance of a first date
You may be compatible by all standards online, but things can be the exact opposite when you go offline. Imagine meeting the person for the first time only to find out that you don’t like her teeth or her hair. Or even imagine the embarrassing situation of being on a first date and sitting across the table with a jaw dropping sexy date but who does not have any table manners and is vulgar. Meeting your online love interest personally is the ideal way to find out if you have real attraction for each other-besides compatibility
Expecting the unexpected from a first date
Drooling over each other’s pictures, spending hours romancing over the phone or talking about the nitty gritty details of your life may have helped you feel closer to your cyber date but it’s the first date that will determine if you can take the online magical relationship offline! Let’s face it, prior to the big day both of you have (unrealistic) expectations about each other and the best advice you can be given is that you have to remain optimistic.
There is no such thing as absolute honesty on dating sites so you should expect some discrepancies in what they claimed to be on relationship sites and what they turn out to be in real life. You may have over romanticized your relationship at this point and unless you get yourself in the right mindset, you may be setting yourself up for deception. Take this first date as a pre-screening step and consider yourself as strangers to each other-open to every possible encounter.
Making the first day special
A first date can be nerve wrecking for even the best of us. Here are some tips to consider:
Be yourself. Dress up comfortably and do not overdo your make up.
Meet up for coffee or shorter casual dates rather than meeting over long dinners. Sharing a coffee together is less stressful and you can break free anytime you feel like it rather than having to sit throughout dinner for hours.
Think about how much you would love being given a second chance to create a good impression. This is precisely how your date must be feeling. Do not turn down people after a first date only, give them the chance to prove themselves. With time, you will get to know the person more and you may find more reasons to love the person.
It is important to gather some information about the person you are meeting or visiting beforehand because it puts a nice impression also you can initiate the conversation with confidence and about the thing in which the other person has a interest in. Also, it should not feel like stalking.